Choices

Everyone has choices to make. Everyone is responsible for the choices they make. There is no handbook declaring which choices are going to be good or which are going to be bad. Your choices shape your life, or so I've been told. But how can you shape your life when you claim that you dont make any choices for yourself? You claim that everyone is guilting you, or forcing you to make these choices. If you think that even for a second, I say BULLSHIT, you're not only lying to yourself, you're creating monsters out of the people who care about you.

I know how damaging choices can be, we all do! No one is immune to making the wrong choice, no one can claim to have never made a mistake, because we all do. We're all human. Being human is about making mistakes, screwing up, fumbling around for that light switch and accidentally breaking the vase on your way through. Claiming to have no choice in what you do; is like saying you've gone through your entire life in a haze, arm behind your back, gun to your head forced into every decision you've ever made from being born to where you are now. That my friend, is denial. You're spending far too much time believing that you have no choice, you're fooling yourself and your the only one being fooled I'm afraid.

Everyone else sees you for who you are, loves you anyway and shouldn't care if you come or not, do that or don't. They are allowed to be upset when you say no, that is their choice. It's not their emotions that force you to go, it's not their use of the force compelling you to do something with them. That's just your excuse as to why you're doing it. Ultimately, your choices are your own. Ask yourself, wouldn't you rather be in charge instead of giving all that credit to outside forces?

Think about it. How often are you relinquishing the control of your life to another person because you don't want to face the consequences of your choice?